I had an unsettling experience on Facebook yesterday. I got into a lively discussion with a friend of a friend on someone else's status. Eventually, I wrote that I'd enjoyed our argument but that it was simply going around in circles and I didn't want to clog up our friend's status any further so was going to stop. He replied - maybe in jest - that he knew that the real reason was because I was losing. I really didn't want to get into any further discussions. In a supreme act of bitchiness I deleted all my comments. That should have been the end of the story. Later, however, I noticed that he had reposted them. The only way he could have done so was to have copied them elsewhere on his computer before I deleted them. At first I found this amusing. On reflection I found it creepy.
The security settings on my Facebook page are very high and I never like or comment on anything that will show up in the newsfeed of someone I don't know. All I want to do is interact with my friends. Obviously by commenting on a friend's status his friends are going to see it whether they're my friends or not. I don't have an issue with that. My issue is that someone copied my comments without my permission. It wasn't a funny or a copy/paste status; it was comments I had made and then deleted. I can see the value of keeping a record if someone is cyber-bullying or if one is dealing with a company but neither was the case here. I simply fail to see why they were copied.
The blog is different. I want people to read it and comment on it. The more the better as far as I'm concerned. If anyone wants to quote me feel free; it's public. They're not words I want copyrighted or protected.
I do, however, moderate comments. So far every one of them has been published. I'm definitely not trying to censor. I decided to set that up after a fellow blogger was personally attacked in comments left by a follower. She was very upset and considered stopping the blog. If someone disagrees with what's in the blog or with the comments of one of my followers, that's fine. I don't believe, however, that any blogger or their followers should have to be subjected to something more personal. As bloggers we're putting ourselves out there and are a potential target for abuse. I guess that our personalities shine through to a certain extent. That doesn't mean our followers know us and can pass judgement on us as people. All they can do is pass judgement on our blog.